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The Squirt Report (Part 1): Where Do You Fit In?

femaleejaculationAs many of you know, we recently fielded a survey on female ejaculation. We’ve gotten over 1,400 responses so far, enough to be able to claim a reasonable amount of statistical significance for our data.*

Here’s our first report about our findings.

How Often Do Squirters Squirt?

For most gushers, whether or not they’ll ejaculate is unpredictable. Five percent of gushers say they “always” ejaculate. Twenty-seven percent “usually” squirt, 42% say sometimes, and 22% “rarely.”

(Three percent of respondents who said they female-ejaculate responded ‘never’ to this question. Contradictory, right? Our comments section suggests that most of these folks had one squirting experience in their lives, then never again.)

They Get By With Some Help From Their Friends

Fifty-three percent of gushers say they’re likelier to squirt when they’re having partnered sex. Twenty-one percent say it’s more likely when they’re playing solo, and 26% say the likelihood is about the same.

Hey—what are friends for?

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When asked how much they gush, our respondents’ answers were all over the place. (Like the female ejaculate, maybe.)

Only 1% said they emit “a few drops.” Eleven percent said a “small amount.” “More than a little, less than a lot” came in at 23% and “I’m a super-soaker” registered at 31%.

“Varies” was the highest number of all—34%.

Bottom line, when women squirt, they tend to produce a lot of liquid. The amount tends to be unpredictable, though. Many women produce more on one occasion, less on another.

A Learnable Skill!

About 50% of squirters learned how to do so. (Seven percent of all squirters said they learned with a teacher, 25% with a partner, and 17% taught themselves.)

Fourteen percent of squirters said they’d always been able to do so. Fifty percent of respondents said they developed the ability spontaneously as they grew into their sexuality.

(Total percentages exceed 100% because multiple answers were permitted.)

At Any Age!

Two percent of gushers report having the ability as pre-teens. Three percent learned how to gush when they were over 60. Over 50% of all gushers learned to squirt when they were thirty or older.

The moral: It’s never too late!

Everyone’s Experience Is Different

prt_500x500_1418345679_2x-by-by-folkert-gorterLet’s close with some quotes about gushers’ personal experience:

  • “It was something I taught myself at age 11 through intuition. However, as I have gotten older, it has been more difficult to quiet my mind and let stress fall away. Due to this, squirting happens much less frequently.”
  • “It just happened spontaneously after trying to learn it. The moment I let it go proverbially, I let it go literally.”
  • “I started gushing when I married my husband last year. It’s very emotional for me. I need to feel really loved and wanted or it doesn’t happen.”

Do any of these comments ring true for you? Where do you fit in?

*An important note: Our sample is neither random nor a cross-section of the population. Many of our respondents came from our own list or from similar communities of sexually savvy people. That being said, we view the findings as strongly suggestive—and totally interesting.

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The Joy of Squirting: How I Learned to Be a Juicy Goddess

The_Birth_of_Venus_by_Robert_Fowler-soft_edgesThe Joy of Squirting—How I Learned to Be a Juicy Goddess

Whether you call it squirting, gushing, or female ejaculation, it’s a delicious form of hot wet pleasure. Releasing this fluid, also called amrita, the nectar of life, is truly an ecstatic experience. Here’s how I learned to go from orgasmic to a gushing goddess—and you can, too.

Female What?

When I first heard about female ejaculation (FE), I was already working as a nurse-midwife and gynecology practitioner. I had never experienced it myself. At first, I thought it was made-up porn nonsense. But over the next few years, I had patients who reported what sounded like FE: profuse release of fluid with high-level arousal and/or orgasm. This is when I began to suspect that gushing was a real but rare experience.

She Gushed On Me!

In the mid 90’s, I had an up-close personal experience of squirting with a female partner who was an ejaculator. She told me she had always ‘gushed’ with orgasm. The amount was profuse. I observed the fluid spurting out of her urethra. It did not smell like urine, wasn’t yellow, and it tasted briny and tangy but not at all like pee. It didn’t leave any stain on a white towel. When air-dried, the fragrance on the towel was quite pleasant.

As I’d been having orgasms for almost 30 years without such a response myself, I assumed it was something only a small number of women had the natural ability to do. I now ‘believed’ in FE, as an uncommon but natural ability.

Female Ejaculation Lessons?

My next shift in thinking came when I met a number of women who said that they had learned to squirt, commonly in their late 30’s and 40’s. This certainly got my interest! I started to believe that gushing might be a learnable skill.

I already knew that many sexual responses were based on skills that were learnable. I’d taught myself a variety of useful skills such as how to have assured orgasms, orgasms from intercourse, non-genital orgasms, and so on. Once I realized that female ejaculation was a skill that could be acquired, I figured that if these other women had learned to ejaculate, so could I. At that time, though, there were no books or classes on the topic, so I just kept asking questions when I had the opportunity while also expanding my orgasm skills and holding on to the vision that it was possible for me to experience squirting myself.

Squirting Is Possible and Learnable

Sure enough, now that I knew it was possible and learnable, and also had a foundation of orgasmic proficiency, it happened. After a delightful night of extensive stimulation and dozens of orgasms, I experienced my own dramatic gushing mega-orgasm. It was profuse, wildly expanded my already pretty wild orgasms, and had a component that felt deeply sacred and empowering. I was now a true believer. No question about it—squirting was a learnable skill!

Over the next few years, I became more proficient at having a wide spectrum of orgasms, including gushing ones. I was reinforced in my basic belief that if a person combined comfort and connection to their body, knowledge, skill and practice, they could learn to squirt.

Gushing Variety

The nature of my gushing varies quite a bit. I can produce vastly different amounts of fluid. With certain types of stimulation, especially if it’s prolonged, I may gush buckets. If I’m not in a deep state of arousal, inadequately stimulated or dehydrated, I produce very little. Not all my orgasms include obvious gushing at all.

I’m certain that I’m not producing pee. When I gush, the fluid I produce smells remarkably like amniotic fluid, briny and fresh like seawater. When I was still in my cycling years, it would be sweeter around ovulation. While it does emerge from the urethral opening, it’s not yellow and doesn’t smell like urine. I’ve checked the pH and it isn’t the same as urine.

Another consideration for me is that I can produce considerably more ejaculatory fluid than I can urine. When I pee, a finite amount of urine comes out. It takes some time before I can generate more. In a really prolonged orgasmic series of ejaculations, I can produce huge amounts of fluid. As long as I’m well hydrated, I can keep going. I measured the fluid once and found that I can expel about ½ cup with each series of gushes—and then keep going to have many additional series of gushes of similar amounts. I could never produce that much urine in such a short amount of time.

The Anatomy of Female Ejaculation

As I was developing my gushing abilities, I became intensely interested in the anatomy and physiology of the process. Since it was clear to me that it was not urine, diluted or otherwise, I wondered where the fluid came from. For a while, I found no plausible explanations for it. The scientific perspective seemed to be that it must be urine since there appeared to be no other place for a large amount of fluid to come from other than the bladder.

I did not (and do not) accept that theory. It was not congruent with my personal experience. I believed there must be another anatomically accurate and scientifically valid explanation.

Ejaculatory Eureka

My ‘aha’ insight into the possible mechanism of female ejaculation followed. You can hear about my ‘Eureka’ moment and find out where all that liquid comes from in my recorded online course The Learnable Art of Female Ejaculation. You can also get all of my subsequent learning about FE such as why we squirt and, of course, lots of tips and techniques for facilitating gushing goddess orgasms for yourself or your partners.

I have no doubt that many of the factors that contribute to the ability to squirt are learnable. These include getting to deep levels of arousal, orgasmic expansion skills, how to relax, release and expel, the mindset of permission, an accurate understanding of the relevant anatomy and specific manual stimulation skills. When women develop these skill sets, it increases the likelihood that they’ll have sexual experiences that are deeply satisfying and orgasmic, whether you discover the ability to get super juicy or not. If women also develop the ability to have glorious gushing orgasms, all the better!

Orgasmic Options

In my teaching about sexuality, I always emphasize that there are a wide range of pleasure pathways and many ways to access deep wells of ecstatic experience. Female ejaculation is not required to have extraordinary pleasure or to be sexy or for any reason other than that it’s a blissful way to expand the menu of orgasmic options.

Pouring forth amrita feels awesome, empowering and profoundly liberating. It taps into deep emotions and feelings of connectedness with yourself, your partners and the universe. It produces a sense of deep release and post-orgasmic relaxation. When you’re gushing you feel like a goddess (or in the presence of one)—beautiful, gorgeous, and wild.


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Why Learn to Squirt? The Pleasures of Female Ejaculation

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The Pleasures of Female Ejaculation!

Whenever I talk to a group of people about female ejaculation, someone invariably asks, “Why would I want to learn how to gush?”

It’s a fair question. For a lot of people, squirting conjures images of mess—a flood at best, pee at worst. It makes sense to wonder, ‘Why bother?’ Or even to have a ‘yuck’ response. Who needs more laundry to do?

So let me tell you—it’s worth it. Believe me, it’s worth it!

Simply put, female ejaculating wildly expands the experience of orgasm. Each spurt of hot fluid brings a delicious and intense feeling of release. It’s a form of ecstatic liberation. When it’s happening, I feel like a goddess—powerful, ecstatic and beautiful. It’s like you’re connected to the universal life force and it’s flowing through you.

It also has a deep emotional component for me. I feel like a fountain of love juice. “The fountain of the goddess,” they call it—for a reason. This is only my experience, of course, but other female ejaculators describe gushing similarly.

It’s also fabulous to be with a gushing goddess. In a recent class, my partner Carl was asked the benefits of being with a female ejaculator. His answer: “It tastes delicious, it’s emotionally empowering, and it feels yummily squishy. It gives me immediate feedback that I’m giving my partner amazing pleasure. There’s nothing better!”

In ancient India, this fluid was called amrita, the nectar of life. It was collected in sacred rituals and used as a blessing. I totally get that—amrita feels blessed to give and to receive!

Female ejaculation—it’s a complete win-win!

It goes without saying that you can have fabulous sex and wonderful orgasms without gushing. As an enhancement, though, there’s nothing quite like it. Female ejaculation feels amazing (sacredly amazing!). It taps into deep wells of emotion. It feels profound, like a delirious, wild, primal force that erupts and spills you into a state of blessed-out bliss.

If it leaves you with some extra laundry, that’s a small price to pay for a ‘fountain-load’ of ecstasy.


To learn how to facilitate your hot wet pleasure, ‘attend’ my recorded online course The Learnable Art of Female Ejaculation. 

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You get three class sessions, special yummy home play assignments, resources and more. For all genders!