Bliss Dance by Tony Webster
Sizzling Sacred Sex Home Play
Session Four: Immersion and Integration into Hot Holy Bliss
Here are your home play suggestions for Week Four.
Resources
Multi’s For Men: Practice Guide
Fire Breath Orgasm
Exquisite Erotic Technique
Resources for Healing, Recovery & Acceptance—Becoming Unstoppable
Your Home Play Overview
Partner Play: Genitals Need Love, Too!
Honor Your Sacred Sexual Self
Healing the Pelvic Temple
Your Home Play Details
Partner Play: Genitals Need Love, Too!
Everyone wants to be loved. Genitals especially need love, care and tenderness after all the flak they’ve gotten for millennia.
Make a ritual around adoring your partner’s pleasure parts. Gaze at it lovingly. Shower it with flower petals. Anoint it with sweet sensuous oils. Give it little kisses. Share a shower or bath and wash every speck of their special parts.* Say out loud how beautiful their sexy parts are, how sacred and divine! Give your sweetie the gift of showing and telling them how much you enjoy, appreciate and desire their genitalia. Worship at the genital altar!
*Avoid soap on the delicate mucus membranes inside the vagina or around the vaginal opening.
Honor Your Sacred Sexual Self
Create a sacred space in the ways we’ve already discussed. Be in your temple and have your altar nearby along with whatever goodies you need for a solo-sex session. I strongly recommend having some lovely coconut oil handy.
Begin by setting an intention that reflects your desire for your self-sex to be sacred. Some suggestions: “I honor my sexual self,” “I celebrate my pleasure,” “I love my sexy body,” “My yoni or lingam is sacred,” “Sex is sacred play.”
Now bring your focus to your breath, sound and pelvic muscle pumps. When you feel centered and present, start to touch yourself. Start with your non-erogenous zones and work your way towards the sexier bits. Take your time and breathe, make sound and repeat your affirmations.
When you’re ready, bring your energy and focus to your genitals, showering them with love, touch, breath and positive words. Take as long as you like to bring your sexual energy up.
You may want to play with delaying your orgasm and circulating the energy. To do this, when you’re close to coming, pause in your touch and do the following: draw the energy out of your genitals by breathing and sounding it up your spine, and then rolling it around in your head before allowing it to settle back down in your crotch. You may want to play with this circuit three or more times before you go into orgasmic release. When you are having your orgasm (or orgasms), repeat your affirmation (in a simplified form —your mind will be down in the brain-basement!) and dedicate the power and energy to your sacred parts, imagining your yoni or lingam suffused with light, love and bliss.
After you’ve come, gently hold your hands over your crotch and shower your parts with appreciation and honor. End by leaving a hand there and putting the other hand on your heart. Take three breaths, circulating sacred love within yourself.
Healing the Pelvic Temple
Sacred ritual can be used in the service of holy healing.
Create your healing space.
Get comfortable.
Close your eyes or put on your blindfold.
Start by setting a sacred intention.
Begin by taking deep, slow breaths. Let your breathing center you in your body.
Bring your awareness to your breath. Watch as it flows in and out. Feel the ebb and flow as it enters and leaves your body. Gradually calm your breathing, allowing it to deepen and slow. Each in-breath draws in life energy and vitalizing oxygen. Allow energized relaxation to flow in. Each exhale releases tension, allowing your muscles to get soft, heavy and loose. Let your exhale carry away all your thoughts.
As you continue your deep, rhythmic breathing, begin to imagine a stream of light pouring through you, flowing in and out, filling you with warm vibration. Send it up and then down.
Now, imagine that the stream is pooling in the warm dark center of your pelvis. Breathe it into the bowl of your bones.
Tune in and feel sensations. Notice how the energy shows up for you. Is it light or dark? Is it hot or cool? Is there a color? How does it feel? Play with the sensations of the energy flow.
Imagine it spiraling around your pelvic bowl. Breathe. Visualize the movement. Notice the sensations. Inhale pleasure and healing energy. Exhale pain and stress. Inhale freedom and flow. Release blockages, inhibitions and fears.
When you’re ready, start to move the energy back up your body, feeling it move with your breath, spiraling up through your belly, your chest and back to your throat, and then in and out through your mouth and nose.
Linger as long as you like. When you’re ready to re-enter the world, wiggle your fingers and toes. Stretch gently and then more vigorously. Slowly sit up, remove your blindfold and open your eyes.
A variation on this theme is to add sexual arousal with optional orgasm(s) to your healing practice. To do so, after you’ve filled your pelvic bowl with lovely flowing energy, self-pleasure (or enjoy partner play). During your arousal, hold the healing intention. If you include orgasm, imagine that the orgasmic energy is bathing your pelvis with healing power.
Post-Practice
After you’re done, you may want to write or make art about your experience.
Sharing
If you’re working with a support person, counselor or therapist, you may want to share with them about this experience.
If you have an intimate partner or partners, you may choose to share with them also.
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