Sizzling Sacred Sex Home Play

Session Two: Exploring Eros—Sacred Erotic Energy

Here are your home play suggestions for Week Two.

Enjoy your sacred pleasure!

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Resources

SexCraft Solo Practices
SexCraft Partner Practices
Pelvic Floor Play
Chakras
Energy Maps

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Your Home Play

Practices & Rituals

[This is a table of contents. Scroll down for the individual exercises.]

Chakra Vision
Hand Play: Conduct Your Orchestra
Dilating Breath
Breathing Open the Tube
Sacred Intention Arousal Meditation: Relaxing into Excitement
A Rousing Seven Chakra Meditation
Solo Sensual Self-Pleasure Ritual
Partner Play: Feast of the Senses Ritual

Chakra Vision

As usual, start with a few deep, slow centering breaths.

Imagine each chakra infused with light and color. Take your time to turn each one on.

Visualize the location and color of each chakra in turn as you breathe and make sound. Try this with the ‘traditional’ chakra colors first.

Also try it by breathing and sounding into each vortex and see whatever colors appear to you.

You can play with one chakra per session or run through all the chakras, top to bottom or bottom to top.

Recommended: Do this while pulsing your PFMs.

Hand Play: Conduct Your Orchestra

Your hands are natural conductors of rhythm and conduits for energy. Utilize their power by orchestrating the movement of your energetic juice.

Here are some suggested ways to help your hands make magic:

• Hold your hands palms facing each other, starting about shoulder-width apart. Slowly bring them together. Stop when you feel a sense of density or energy between them. Play with slowly moving them closer and farther apart until you feel the edges of the energy ball between them. Try breathing, sounding and intending the ball to get bigger or more full of energy. See if it seems to change.
• Use your hand to focus your attention. Put a hand on the place you want your arousal to go.
• Use your energy field that’s 3-6 inches away from the outside of your body. Hold your hand a few inches away from your body over the place where you want your erotic energy to go. Add some breaths and imagine you’re breathing through your palm.
• Run your hands from one area of your body to another to move your attention and energy. Try three or four firm rhythmic strokes. Want more genital excitement and awareness? Rub from your chest to your crotch. If you already have a lot of genital arousal, you can spread the energy to other parts of your body by stroking from your crotch to your heart or down your legs.
• Use your hands to bridge two areas by putting a hand on each to connect them. Try this with your heart and genitalia, or your belly and crotch.
• You can orchestrate energy by moving your hands about 3-10 inches above the surface of your body, as if you were stirring and swirling the air around you. Try circling your hands above your pelvis during your next climax and see if that keeps your orgasm rolling longer.

Partner Play: Do the same things with your playmate!

Dilating Breath

Do a deep, slow breath in and out through a loosely open mouth. Allow your lips to softly dilate, a little more with each exhale. Let all your facial muscles relax open. Keep your eyes softly focused. With each out-breath, release your jaw muscles so your chin drops a bit more with each. Rather than opening your mouth, allow it to relax and dilate. Allow the front of your mouth to expand, then the back of your mouth, then your throat. Let all the muscles of your whole face expand and open. Notice how you feel.

Breathing Open the Tube

Connect your top and bottom with your breath (and a few mind tools to help).

Look at pictures or imagine your Inner Tube, the energetic channel that runs from top to bottom of you.

Do the Dilating Breath and allow the opening to move further and further down your inner channel. Imagine your mouth and throat as one end of an unrestricted, relaxed tube that extends all the way through the center of your whole body, from mouth to crotch. Try to feel as if your entire internal channel is breathing freely. Let each breath expand your inner tube. (Breathing in through your nose is also okay, although try to keep using your opened mouth for the exhale.)

Try adding sounds, especially relaxed, open-mouthed, open-throated “O” sounds.

Sacred Intention Arousal Meditation: Relaxing into Excitement

Use your favorite Spirit Tools to begin your ritual arousal meditation. That might include lighting candles, attending to your erotic altar, and blessing your temple space. Set sacred intentions. Have something you can use to periodically remind you of your intentions such as a particular object on your altar, a written intention, a picture, a chant or song—whatever works for you.

Now, play with yourself. Take your time and be a good lover to yourself. Get to low-level arousal. With slow breathing, relaxing sighs and gentle stretches, relax into your arousal. Focus on your intention.

Now fire up your erotic energy in any way you like. Bring your arousal up to mid-level. See if you can relax into your arousal by slowing your respiratory rate, doing deep sighs, and moving slowly. Explore stillness by keeping your hand motionless on your genitals and refraining from rocking and pulsing. Get quiet. Go soft. Focus your awareness on pleasure and sensations. Allow thoughts and goals to drift away. Again bring your attention back to your intention.

Next, rev up again, using whatever works to get you to high-level arousal (ideally including fast deep breathing, hot sexy sounds and sensual movements). Get near your almost-coming place, but don’t go all the way there. (Guys, for you that means stopping just before you reach ejaculatory inevitability.) Once again, relax into your arousal by slowing your breathing, slowing or stopping your motions and tuning in to sensation and pleasure. Let your sounds get quieter or silent. Let go of any sense of urgency, performance anxiety or pressure to make something happen. Allow yourself to drift into bliss. Let the erotic energy move through you as it will. Allow your intention to waft through you.

You may want to do three rounds of this practice, revving your energy up, then relaxing into your arousal. Periodically let your intention drift through you.

You can end by coming or not, as you prefer. If you choose not to climax, close by visualizing the erotic energy moving into your solar plexus or belly. This will transmute the energy into vitality. Hold your intention and let your erotic energy fill it.

If you choose to go into orgasm, try to focus on your intention before you launch and then try to relax into your orgasm. Afterward, loving cherish yourself, your pleasure and your power.

A Rousing Seven Chakra Meditation

Before beginning, review the seven-chakra system (see Chakra handout).

You can do this practice standing, sitting or lying down. If you’re standing, have your feet shoulder-width apart and your knees slightly bent or unlocked. If you sit, be in a position where your spine is straight and you can rock your pelvis. If you lie on your back, have your knees up and feet flat on the floor.

In the version of the practice I describe here, you’re using hands-off energy techniques without direct sexual or genital stimulation. Another option is to do a variation where you self-pleasure (or have a friend assist), so you’re using your arousal energy to pump and pleasure your chakras. You might try it the first way once and then the second way another time.

Start with some deep, slow breaths, using a loose mouth with an open throat. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles (PFM) with each inhale and release with your exhale. As you pull in with your muscles and your breath, imagine that you’re drawing energy in. As you exhale and release your bottom muscles, envision that you are opening and releasing energy out.

Next, draw energy into your first chakra by breathing slowly and directly into the perineum. Breathe your root chakra full of hot light. Exhale and let the root chakra open. With each new round of breathing, expand the energy. Pump up your breath, getting faster and more intense. See the light get brighter, and feel the heat grow or the color intensify. Continue until the chakra feels full and charged.

Using the same basic pattern, charge your second chakra. Start with slow, deep breaths and work up to deep, rapid ones. As you do this, imagine your sex chakra filling with heat, light and pulsation. Keep going until that chakra also feels charged up.

Do each chakra in turn, taking enough time with each to get it pumped up and fully activated.

Now do some breathing all the way up and down the channel, surging through each chakra. Pull the energy up from your root to your crown, then surf the wave back down to your root and out your whole bottom.

Finish by leaving the whole channel open and charged, or by moving the energy to one specific area that you wish to vitalize.

Solo Sensual Self-Pleasure Ritual

Prepare for your ritual as you would if your favorite lover was coming over to spend time in your pleasure temple. Here, of course, you are prepping for your own delicious self. Create a safe and sacred space.

You can do this ritual with or without solo sexual play. I encourage you to try it both ways. Or do both in one date, beginning with non-sexual play and then having a second round with hands-on self-stimulation.

Set up your temple space by gathering pleasurable playthings. Include items for sensation play, beautiful things, succulent scents, sweet sounds and delightful delicacies. If solo sex play is on your agenda, you may also want to gather your favorite erotic toys. A hand mirror will allow you to see your own beauty. Put together a play list of songs that inspire and delight you.

A simple but very effective strategy for tuning in to your own experience is to use a blindfold. You can also just close your eyes. Before you start, make sure everything can be easily reached.

Now you’re all set up for a sensual session in your sumptuous solo temple. Start your music and put on your blindfold or close your eyes. Start by just focusing on the sounds. Breathe it in. Sing along (or chant or hum).

Next, play with smell. You may want to let the music play on in the background or you might want to turn it off to attend to your other senses. Your choice, as always.

Breathing in sweet scents is a great way to deepen respiration while exquisitely attuning to odor. Notice what happens when you do it silently and the difference if you allow sounds of pleasure to emerge. If you’re smelling food items, notice how the smell may make you long for the chocolate, how the scent of the ripe fruity primes you for the bite of mango and how it stimulates desire to get a whiff of the wine. Don’t give in yet to that longing. Allow your desire to build!

When you really, really want it, give yourself a little lick of one of the food bitlets. Discover how slowly you can eat a piece of chocolate. Explore the textures of a melon slice. Notice how a single crunchy salty chip stimulates different parts of your tongue. Slowly swish a sip of juice in your mouth. Take your time with each tasty tidbit. Slowly savor every bit. Lick your lips! Play with sounds of pleasure. ‘Ummm’ and ‘ooooo,’ sigh and slurp. Since sound amplifies sensation, see if you can increase your oral enjoyment with exclamations!

An easy way to move to touch is to start by lovingly licking your fingers. Use your own body to explore sensation. Trace your lips with a fingertip, slide the back of your hand against your silky or stubbly cheek. Slowly drag your fingernails along your thigh, massage your feet, slide one foot along your other leg. Tenderly stroke your hair. Feel the heat of your skin. Notice the luscious textures, voluptuous sensations and subtle sweetness. Feel how alive your body is, how soft and firm, how rough and smooth you are. Discover and delight in the many ways you can touch yourself, both giving and receiving the pleasure.

Now add the sensations of other items to the game. Slide a piece of silk along your belly. Feather your forearm. Roll a tennis ball under your back. Loofah your soles. Rub fur on your face.

Naturally, enhance all of this bliss by attuning your awareness with your breath, amplifying with pleasure sounds, enhancing with attention and allowing your enjoyment to move through you.

If you’re including solo sex play, take your time before you include your sexy bits in the game. But when you do, tune in to the many delicious ways you can touch yourself and the many delightful sensations you can elicit from your most sensitive parts. Be a fantastic lover to yourself. Sweetly stroke your thighs, rub your tummy, discover the soft sensations as you delicately brush your fingertips against your smooth skin. Add some massage oil and play with the different sensations of your slick self.

Bring your favorite tools to the pleasure play. Rock your hips, pulse your pelvic floor, let your body shiver and shake with sensations. Tune into the tingles and turn on the throbs. Touch, tease and tantalize. Take your time. Orgasm is optional, but if you’re going for it, use everything you’ve got to ramp it up and roll it out … and out … and further and further and further out.

Bask in the glow. Be like a sleepy cat in the sun and just BE. (Don’t rush this part!) Luxuriate! Slowly stretch and feel how good you feel.

When you’re ready, remove your blindfold and open your eyes. Look. Appreciate the sights, colors, contours—all the gifts of vision. Delight in the beauty of a flower, the astonishing blue sky or the luminous moon. Look upon your own shining face in a mirror—gazing lovingly at your own beauty.

Appreciate the gift of all of your senses and your abilities to give and receive pleasure. Appreciate all of the inner tools and skills that are yours—easily accessible anytime, to enhance your ecstasy and bring you bliss.

Complete your ritual by taking at least three conscious, deep breaths. Inhale slowly and fully, then exhale with an appreciative sigh.

 Partner Play: Feast of the Senses Ritual

A Feast of the Senses is a partnered ritual that provides an opportunity to learn to enhance your yang (or giving) skills and your yin (or receiving) skills while having a luscious time with a friend or beloved. This is a sexy, fun and beautiful practice to do as a ritual in your pleasure temple.

First gather a collection of items that make sounds, smell great, taste delicious (in small bite-size pieces), feel luscious and look beautiful. You’ll need a blindfold, a comfortable warm space and nice chunk of undisturbed time. A hand mirror will add a lovely touch at the end.

Do the practice in two parts. In the first part, one partner is the Giver and the other the Receiver. Then you’ll switch roles for the second half so each of you has the opportunity to explore both aspects of yourselves. The Receiver is practicing their yin skills of taking in, absorbing, allowing, and surrendering control. The Receiver’s job is to open completely and utterly soak up every bit of all the deliciousness. As the Receiver, you enhance your sensations by breathing deeply, staying present and making sounds of pleasure. The Yin person’s job includes giving fabulous non-verbal feedback to their Yang partner, demonstrating with sound and body language how much they like (or ideally love!) it and just how much pleasure they’re having. As the Receiver, you also get to give back to your Giver by being overt with your obvious and abundant non-verbal feedback and appreciation.

The person giving is in the Yang role. As the Giver, your job is to delight each of your partner’s senses. The Giver’s job is to be completely attentive to your partner, to give to them in the ways that will most delight, stimulate and heighten their senses.

To enhance your connection, attune your breathing and sounds to that of your receiver. Do your best to tease and tantalize, increasing your partner’s desire by any means possible. Part of the art of giving pleasure is the skill of inciting appetite and increasing desire. The yang person is driving their Yin partner to the finest heights of pleasure possible.

To begin, the Receiver gets completely comfortable and puts on the blindfold (or allows the Giver to blindfold you).

The Giver starts with sound, then proceeds to use smell, taste, touch and sight.

Take your time and play with sound. (Don’t forget that you can include your whispers, moans and sweet somethings along with bells or chimes). Waft delicious scents under their nose, eventually allowing them a lick or nibble. Tease your partner with delicacies, delivered in creative and enticing fashion. Explore the wide menu of touch sensations with feathers and fur, skin and silk. Lastly, remove the blindfold, restoring your partner’s sense of vision, showing objects of beauty (including your shining face). Use a mirror to allow your Receiver to see their own beauty (we’re never more luscious than when in the throes of pleasure.)

After the first round, partners switch roles and the Giver becomes the Receiver and vice versa. Thus each person has the opportunity to experience complete surrender to pleasure and the joy of lovingly giving delight.

Most importantly, be loving, open and generous and have lots of fun! Be creative and play with pleasure!

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