Women’s Anatomy of Arousal
Resources & Home Play Assignments
Week Three: Inner Sanctums and Connections: Vagina, Uterus and Nerves
Text Resources
Your Home Play Assignment(s)
Tour of the Inner Sanctums and Nerves: Vagina, Uterus and Nerves
Female Anatomy Tour
If for any reason you haven’t done parts 1 & 2, review for the general recommendations about how to go on your journey and do those explorations first.
I encourage you to do the tour solo first. If you’re partnered, take them along on the second tour.
Stage 1: Not Aroused
Continue your exploration.
Look at your vulva and notice if you can see your vaginal orifice without opening your lips with your fingers. Either way is normal.
Spread your lips and look at the opening.
Pulse your pelvic floor muscles, noticing what happens to the orifice when you do. Push down and out with your PFMs, noticing what happens to the orifice when you do.
Put one or two lubed fingers just inside the opening and feel around.
Put your fingers deeper in, reach up and feel the roof, next the side walls and then the floor. The urethral sponge is above the roof, the perineal sponge is below the floor. Since they aren’t engorged, you probably won’t find anything particularly obvious to feel. It probably won’t be pleasurable to play with them yet. In fact, it may feel irritating.
Reach in deeper, and feel just in front of your cervix.
Reach far in and find your cervix. Notice its position.
If you can, feel in back of your cervix.
With your fingers inside, squeeze and raise your pelvic floor muscles, noticing what happens to the walls, muscles and your cervix. Now use your PFMs and push down and out.
Stage 2: Medium Level Arousal (after 15 – 20 minutes, perhaps?)
Repeat the same explorations when at mid-level arousal.
If your vestibular bulbs are nicely engorged (I hope they are!), you can feel the inner curve of each bulb when you feel the side walls just beyond the entry.
Your urethral and perineal sponges may be much larger and easier to feel (or they might not get very engorged until stage 3, high level arousal).
Note how far back and high up your cervix is.
Do the PFM motions again, noticing how things inside move and feel.
Stage 3: High level arousal (after 30 – 45 minutes!)
Repeat the same explorations when at high-level arousal.
Your urethral and perineal sponges will probably be very engorged and easy to feel. If not, give each structure some loving and stimulating attention.
Note how far back and high up your cervix is. You may be able to reach it. Try squatting and/or bearing down and see if that brings it into reach.
Do the PFM motions again, noticing how things inside move and feel.
This is a good time to explore for ‘sweet spots,’ that is, places where nerves have major branches. Remember that nerves come in pairs, so use two fingers and explore by placing them about an inch apart, pressing firmly and noticing how that feels. Then move your fingers further apart and repeat. Good spots to check are just in front of the cervix and just behind it.
Extra Credit Home Play
Leave your fingers inside while orgasming and notice what happens to the walls and the cervix.
Post-Tour
When you’re done, make some notes: What did you see and feel?
A Guided Tour of the Succulent Sponge
Begin by putting one or two of your fingers inside and exploring your yoni. Your vaginal canal is lined with moist mucus membrane. To find your urethral sponge, turn the pads of your fingers up, curl them and reach up, exploring the roof of your vagina. The mucosa there is somewhat rougher then the smooth slick surfaces of your walls and floor.
Remember as you go on your guided tour that this is erectile tissue that you’re feeling, so during Stage One of your exploration, that is, in a completely unaroused state, it won’t feel like anything in particular. Since the urethral sponge surrounds the urethra, when you push against the non-puffed tissue, you’ll really be rubbing almost directly on your pee tube. It will probably make you feel like you need to pee. For most women, this is not an erotic sensation.
When you’re moderately aroused, feel it again. Notice the differences in size and sensation. It probably won’t feel irritating, but it may not feel great, either.
At this point, you may want to experiment with sponge play and see if you can feel it continue to swell under your fingers. Or, you may choose to return to pleasuring your clitoris and bulbs to bring you to high arousal.
Since this tissue is so deep inside, it’ll respond best during the third stage of your exploration. Sponge play during high-level arousal is most likely to make you go, “Oh, yeah, now I get it, that’s what they’re talking about!”
When your groove tube is really big and puffed, you’ll be able to feel the entire two-to-three-inch length of it. You’ll also notice its ridged or ribbed texture. If you separate your fingers a bit, you can run them along the gutters or sides of the tube. If you can reach in far enough, you’ll feel where it ends. When you play with it for a while, you may notice that it starts to feel like a wet sponge, as if it’s full of tiny fluid-filled grapes.
If you’re using a mirror, you can see some interesting sights.If you hold your vagina open and look inside with a light, you’ll see the roof bulging boldly down into your vaginal canal. You can also note the raised circular ring that’s the end of the tube surrounding the opening of your urethra.
Hot Tips for Guys: Stroking the Sponge
For most women, it doesn’t feel good to have anything inside the vagina until all the external erectile tissue is well puffed-up first. The labia, the erectile tissue of the bulbs, and the clitoris need to be aroused before you enter her in any way. Wait until she’s really hot and her pussy’s plump and inviting you in.
The urethral sponge responds best to firm rhythmical rubbing and thrusting motions. Fingers are the best tool for the job of directly stimulating this area, at least to begin with. Try one or two, as she prefers. try a come-here gesture, crooking your finger to stroke along the length of the tube. Play with a windshield wiper motion, rubbing firmly back and forth. rhythmically press and release. With two fingers inside and your thumb outside, grip the whole area and vibrate your hand, starting small and getting more intense. Run your fingers along the gutters on either side of the tube. Reach back to the tail or end of the tube and pull it towards you. Use strong pressure and be consistent with your motions. You should feel the tissue get increasingly spongy as it swells and fills. Yum!
Track Your Cervix: Fertility Cycle
If you have a cervix, are in a cycling years, and not on hormonal contraception, you can track your cervix throughout your fertility cycle. Just stick your fingers in your pussy every morning for a few cycles. I encourage you to chart your observations. It’s very illuminating!
At ovulation, the cervix will be high, soft and open. Your cervical mucus (fertile flow) will be abundant, clear and stretchy. In the following week, it will descend, becoming firmer and closed. There will be no fertile flow.
Just prior to bleeding, it will be low but closed and medium firm.
During bleeding, it will open slightly and become somewhat softer.
After bleeding, it will close, becoming firmer and ascending.
As you approach ovulation again, it will begin to soften, open and produce fertile flow.
Rhythms of Orgasm
After getting deeply and thoroughly aroused, stimulating all your equipment, have an orgasm (if that’s in your repertoire). Tune in and see if you can notice and differentiate the two rhythms of orgasms: the rapid contractions of the pelvic floor muscles and the slower ‘bass note’ of the uterine movements.
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